When you reblog a picture of a fat person and tell them that they’re disgusting, unhealthy, and that their lifestyle is destructive and what-have-you, while you masquerade under the guise of concern because “it’s not healthy,” I want you to shut the fuck up and understand this.
When you shame someone for their body, it is not about health. When you tell someone they are disgusting, it is quite obviously not about your concern for their well-being. If you do not care enough to take the person’s feelings into account, to understand that they are also a human being and they also deserve to feel good about themselves, you cannot claim you care one iota about their health.
Instead, it is about your displeasure and childish resentment that these people do not conform to your standards of attractiveness. It is your inability to accept there are different body types out there and that it is not your place to determine their worth. It is your inability to comprehend that those whose bodies do not conform to what you perceive as “right” are still human. And it is about how upset you are that other people dare to feel comfortable in their own skin, despite all the toxic societal messages that tell them they are not worth their own respect.
You can link all the studies you like, you can cry about how they’re “promoting” obesity, but it comes down to one thing. No one’s body is yours to judge. To you, no matter what they do, even if they exercise daily and drink enough water and eat enough vegetables, the “evidence” is there. Even if healthy obese people may live longer than skinny people. You know nothing about that person’s lifestyle; you just see the fat they carry and automatically assume they are unhealthy. It is not a sound argument worthy of consideration; it is a knee-jerk reaction.
Because somehow, if you’re fat, that “unhealthiness” means you are worthless. People who smoke are not bombarded with studies that seek to prove they will die soon and are therefore disgusting. People who don’t get much sleep aren’t called an embarrassment and have studies thrown at them on how sleep deprivation leads to a higher mortality rate. People who don’t exercise regularly aren’t put on display while others try to tear their self-love from them and show them how small and unlovable they are.
I’m not talking about healthy vs. unhealthy. This post does not address that. I am talking about how fat people’s bodies are constantly used and mocked and derided because, simply because there is more flesh on their bones, their bodies are somehow not theirs; somehow they are yours to judge, yours to decide what is cherished and yours to decide what gets thrown away.
Let me make it very clear: it is not your fucking decision. I don’t give a fuck about your “scientific studies”—you’re not using them to justify them being “unhealthy,” you are using them to validate your negative, hateful claim that they are not worthwhile. You are never, ever in the right when you decide if someone deserves to love themselves. So fuck off.